I ‘Violated’ Instagram’s Community Guidelines For Saying ‘Men Are Trash’

‘Men are trash’ has become a natural part of my idiolect: when I am mansplained to, when someone grabs me in a club, when I’m interrupted in a meeting. It’s a cathartic lament, and a way of getting people to listen to you – whether that’s to find comfort in empathetic women, or to give men a taste of your frustration. And it works.

I’ve grown used to the ‘not all men’ echoes that reverberate when I say ‘men are trash’. Sometimes this comes from people who don’t quite understand what I’m saying and want to learn. Other times, ‘not all men’ is a cry from the very men who are trash and are uncomfortable with that realisation.

I never thought Instagram would ‘not all men’ me – not an algorithm censoring my laments! But, recently, that’s exactly what happened: I reposted an Instagram post to my story praising MacKenzie Scott’s recent charitable donations (in total reaching over $1 billion USD), and her pledge to give away most of her wealth by the end of her life. Scott is the ex-wife of multi-billionaire Jeff Bezos, founder, and CEO of Amazon who, in contrast, reportedly gives 0.1% of his wealth to charity.

My caption read, ‘this is why men are trash and women deserve the world’. Less than 2 minutes later, I received a notification from Instagram, informing me that my story had been taken down for violating Instagram’s community guidelines.

I did some research. Instagram’s community guidelines cover things like intellectual property, illegal content, spam, and appropriate imagery (read: no female nipples, no genitalia). They also prohibit the glorification of self-injury, discourage posting graphic violence, and ban hate speech.

Instagram says, ‘We remove credible threats of violence, hate speech and the targeting of private individuals. We do not allow attacks or abuse based on race, ethnicity, national origin, sex, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, disability, or disease.’ My story, in particular, fell into the ‘hate speech’ category which, fair enough, fits the case: I was targeting a specific group (men), and I was calling them trash.

“Instagram allows women to be attacked by its users every day – users that are breaking its ‘community guidelines’.”

However, from hate comments, to being attacked for not being the right kind of empowered (feminists are supposed to wear lab coats, not bikinis!), to being the subject of dedicated ‘exposing’ pages; Instagram allows women to be attacked by its users every day – users that are breaking its ‘community guidelines’. Honing in on and quickly removing content that could be interpreted as hate speech against men, then, is hypocritical.

However, misogynistic hypocrisy is literally written into Instagram’s code. Instagram was launched in 2010, and was bought by Facebook in 2012, a website founded in 2004 by five men as a ‘hot or not’ game for male Harvard students to judge their female peers. Needless to say, Facebook has changed a lot since its misogynistic youth, but rather than growing into a woke teen or community activist as we might have hoped, 16-year-old Facebook is still biased against women, and its younger sibling, Instagram, is just one manifestation of this. Enter, the algorithm.

What is the best time to post? How do I get more engagement? Which are the best hashtags to use? These questions are all provoked by the infamous algorithm, a system that was introduced in 2016 and, according to Instagram, orders posts ‘to show the moments we believe you will care about the most.’ However, this algorithm is biased against women. Let me explain.

“Facebook is still biased against women, and its younger sibling, Instagram, is just one manifestation of this. Enter, the algorithm.”

Anyone deemed to be breaking Instagram’s ‘community guidelines’ is placed on something called a ‘shadowban’, meaning the algorithm works against the user to bury their content. In theory, this is a good idea: to bury hate speech, graphic images, and offensive videos. However, because Instagram’s guidelines are so vague and inconsistently enforced, it has been found that women and non-binary people are more affected by shadowbans than cisgender heterosexual men, particularly: black women, plus size women, LGBTQ+ people, and sex workers.

For example, in their ‘appropriate imagery’ clause, Instagram says, ‘We don’t allow nudity on Instagram, with some exceptions, like photos of post-mastectomy scarring and women actively breastfeeding. Nudity in photos of paintings and sculptures is OK, too.’ In practise, female nudity is penalised where male nudity just isn’t.

On another page outlining the guidelines, ‘no nudity’ is clarified to ban ‘some photos of female nipples’, but not male nipples. Such a binary view of bodies was never going to work, and Instagram has been challenged by accounts such as @salty.world and @genderless_nipples. On both accounts, Instagram has removed photos of non-female nipples, saying the photos broke their community guidelines.

‘Instagram, you can’t even tell the difference between male and female nipples; who could!?’ @genderless_nipples wrote. ‘So why even bother banning female nipples if they can be so similar?’

As Salty founder Clair Fitzsimmons put it, “The patriarchy is in the algorithms.” In short, women and non-binary people are challenged more on their nipples than misogynists are on their hate speech.

Fitzsimmons continued, “Our digital world has been created for and by cis, straight, white men. When they write the algorithms, they embed all their prejudices, biases, and assumptions into the programs, and now we’re all living in the digital world they created for themselves.”

“In short, women and non-binary people are challenged more on their nipples than misogynists are on their hate speech.”

If I break Instagram’s ‘community guidelines’ again, I risk getting my account removed. Though it is frustrating to be told this, not much is at stake for me and my 259 followers. However, the same cannot be said for the thousands of women creators who are adversely affected and penalised by Instagram’s ‘community guidelines’. With the removal of an account, an entire livelihood can be destroyed.

The patriarchy is in the algorithms – but so is hypocrisy, fragile masculinity, and the legacy of our social media sphere being created by men. Until Instagram tackles its internal misogyny, and the rife misogyny allowed to exist on their platforms, they cannot claim they are committing to a hate speech free community.

In the meantime, men will (ironically) remain trash – and I should be free to say so.


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  1. February 5, 2021 / 9:49 pm

    I just tested this on my instagram…
    I wanted to write two hate speech posts, one for men and one for women, and see what instagram does about it.
    So I wrote “I hate men, men are the worst” in a instagram story post.
    I was planning to make a post saying “I hate women, women are the worst” right after, but as soon as I posted the first, my instagram stopped working. I could not post or delete posts. After 5 minutes, the “i hate men” post was deleted, and I was given a violation.

    So i went on with my test and posted “I hate women, women are the worst”


    No automatic flag. No post removal. No violation.
    These post were identical.

    F*ck instagram. I really feel that they should be help accountable for this.

    Personally I don’t mind filtering out hate speech. But it has to be filtered for EVERYONE: POC, women, LGBT, and disabled communities.
    That fact that it is ONLY protecting men makes it that much more insulting and unjust. That much more sexist.

    • Aysu
      July 25, 2021 / 12:03 am

      This is really sh*t. In some post I see posts about pages that make rape humorous and constantly criticize women. Looking at the comments “pussy, hahaha kitchen robot!” There are too many sexist statements like this. and when i reply to them “you is just stupid” instagram removes my answer. like a joke. I once violated the community rule for saying that men don’t dress properly. WTF? Well, that was just the male characters in the game! Instagram is absolutely sexist.

    • Aylen
      January 9, 2022 / 8:16 pm

      This is really interesting, I got to this post through curiosity of whether instagram had a bias against men in favour of women after having multiple posts against particular women being removed instantly by instagram. One of which in the past was me simply expressing that women suck, which is similar to what you experienced but in the reverse. I was sure that Instagram favoured protecting women algorithmically as women would bring in more followers and more ad revenue. However after reading a few articles and arriving at this (equally frustrated article) I see now that we all might just be getting wound up in our emotions. I was wrong, and clearly it’s just as frustrating from the girls side of the stick. Just thought I’d let you know that we have it on our side too, it’s not a gender thing. I was so infuriated with the world, so sick of women being favoured over men but now I kind of see that maybe it’s just my personal experiences. Maybe we’re all just a bit too aggressively sexist/biased. In that you believe men are trash, and I (although I also agree men are trash) think women are just as terrible. Maybe the problem is just us? Of course I somewhat expect to receive negative response to this, being a male. But that’s just the way it’s got to go I guess. Just know that I’m just as frustrated with instagram as you are, and clearly we were both wrong.

    • Darby Erin
      October 12, 2022 / 3:59 pm

      Wow. That explains a lot. It’s sad, isn’t it.

  2. February 9, 2021 / 8:52 pm

    I did some stories where people send me worst dates etc, I shared them as some light entertainment in a global pandemic, I commented on one saying men are trash, I had the violations and have been in a permanent Shadowban since, I have 167K followers and this is and will effect my livelyhood! I have even had conversations with Facebook Influencer support asking them to take the context into account and was told that after investigation it has been decided that It was in fact hate speech and they cannot give me any further information on when and IF the Ban will ever leave!

    • A man
      August 31, 2021 / 2:28 pm

      This is exactly why republicans have been fighting so hard to not have hate speech clauses on social media. If you want to ban hate speech, it’ll bite you in the ass cuz everything comes around. Idk your views, but If you support banning racist comments, then you deserve to lose your income for sexist comments. I disagree and think it should just be free speech but hey not my world. Wish you the best of luck in getting your income back as you definitely should.

  3. Bob
    June 28, 2021 / 3:57 pm

    Absolutely biased. I am a man and got my account flagged for saying something about women. I said women are bi-polar, trust their actions”. Meanwhile there are women on IG literally showing their naked behinds, nipples, and the outline of their vaginas on a site that isn’t a porn site. Women have much more rights than men on IG. Just stop.

    • Darby Erin
      October 12, 2022 / 3:54 pm

      That’s when you’re wrong. I’ve been attacked on Instagram from misogyny all the time: Been called a c**t, guys who tell me “Calm your tits” etc… And none of those comments have been removed. Yet, whenever I tell them off in retaliation, OH GOD FORBID a woman like me tell boys to grow up! Not all women are the same. One naked picture of a woman does not automatically define how we are. So stop putting us all in one box and quit talking out of your ass.

  4. David Alexander
    July 14, 2021 / 7:55 pm

    Yeah who would have thought insulting an in tire gender would get you in trouble. Yes some people are trash. There are plenty of trashy women including the ones who say that men are trash just because you’re upset at a small subset of a an entire gender. This is moronic.

  5. V
    July 24, 2021 / 8:53 pm

    I reported one half nude photo of a woman on Facebook who didn’t know she was being photographed but apparently that doesn’t break any guidelines. Another time I saw a comment on Facebook page where a group of men were telling a girl, who was probably a teenager, that she isn’t beautiful. I responded by saying that men are weird and got a warning for using hate speech.
    Instagram is like that too. I reported a comment from a man body shaming a woman in the background of someone else’s photo but it doesn’t violate any guidelines too. I just posted a comment calling a man misogynistic because he is one and got a note saying my comment is similar to other reported comments. I am wondering if I’ll get a warning again.
    I have left facebook and would have left Instagram too if I could but unfortunately I have to use it to connect with people.

  6. September 22, 2021 / 5:30 pm

    I called out hate comments on a video, a lot of male accounts were abusing this woman for her weight and I said something like the men commenting are disgusting, leave her alone and it got flagged up straight away, but those guys comments are still there

  7. Payton
    November 14, 2021 / 12:02 pm

    Its not just preferential to anyone. Instagram loves to throw the shadow ban on anything the algorithm perceives this way. I recently put a caption reading ‘men and women are equally shit’, referring to a rather nihilistic post I shared, and that was seen as ‘hate speech’…apparently being an egalitarian is frowned upon in 2021…
    Having strong views (regardless of where they stand on the political, sexuality, nationalistic, etc.) Spectrum just don’t seem to vibe in a world where people are monitored more for vague opinions, as opposed to an integrated system that actually critically analyzes content.

  8. CY
    August 19, 2022 / 4:48 am

    I wrote “the only man willing to buy me dinner” and posted a bit/fake account offering me 10k a week to “love them” and I was told I violated community guidelines.
    Reported nudity and nothing was done.

  9. Darby Erin
    October 12, 2022 / 3:57 pm

    Girl, thank you for this article. I’m glad I’m not the only one noticing the hypocrisy of Instagram’s community guidelines. Guys have gotten away with calling me a c**t, telling me “Calm your tits” etc. I’m thankful I chose to be single at this point because poor role models like Vince McMahon and the late Hugh Hefner just kill the definition of being a gentleman and it’s sad.

  10. Aditi
    October 4, 2023 / 5:00 am

    I had the same experience. These men were posting such atrocious comment. But I got temporarily banned for calling them incels. And just recently got a permanent ban for it. I have had this Instagram account for more than ten years. But Instagram chooses to support misogynistic people and ban people fighting these bad comments.

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